I think I ruined my kids. Forever.
Parents, did you ever have a thought or fear like that?
Although none of us ever score a 10/10 on every category in parenting, chances are if you're reading this you don't have to worry about having ruined your kids forever.
This past Sunday I talked about "going back to go forward" and introduced a few things to help us consider the impact that our own family of origin and family tree have on each of us presently. We have been thinking and talking about this further in our Coffee Clubs.
At one point in the message, I shared 5 Essentials for Healthy Human Development (Pessos). You can learn more in a helpful write-up on these five things here. I don't know about you, but when I thought about these five things, I did wonder about the kind of impact I am having on our children as a parent. What will they need to talk about in a Coffee Club of their own one day? :)
What if there are gaps in my parenting?
What do my children need from me that I haven't given enough attention to?
Or am I the only parent that ever worries or wonders about something in one of my blind spots?
Don't focus on being hard on yourself. Instead, let's get better. Let's grow.
If you have the kind of relationship with your children where you can ask them some questions and learn from them, here are some questions we could be asking based on the 5 Essential Needs for Healthy Human Development.
1. The Need for Place
2. The Need for Nurture
3. The Need for Support
4. The Need for Protection
5. The Need for Limits
The Kingdom of God grows best through the family! I hope that this week you parents can enjoy some memorable laughs and some heart-to-hearts with your kids.